“The truest mark of being born with great qualities is to be born without envy

Francois, Duc de la Rochefoucauld

You know it is so true…..I don’t know myself many people who live without envy and I definitely do not have a golden star for that. I try to eliminate any possible track of it, but I think I still have some left. At least I eliminated the need to compare myself to others. However, Imagine how wonderful it is not to have envy, I am sure that those people is so much more happier. First of all, it brings satisfaction with what you have. Obviously someone can defend this and say that people who are satisfied with what they have are not ambitious, because they do not strive for more. But at the end of the day, what does it matter? The only thing that will be important is whether you were happy in your life or not. I do not think that not feeling envy makes you passive in life 🙂 And it eliminates the other most important thing: comparison to the others. Instead of comparing all the time yourself to the other, you simply enjoy the success of the others and enjoy your own life. Isn’t that what it is all about? There always will be someone who will have “more” than you…It is like being in constant race for the horizon that can never be reached. There always will be someone more successful, someone having more money, someone having less money, someone having more responsibilities, someone having less responsibilities, someone looking better, someone looking less that good, someone having children, someone without children and so on. List is endless, it is just the thing that comparison to the others and building your life goals and satisfaction on such comparison leads eventually into dissatisfaction, because you can never be someone else.

It’s not having experiences that makes us wise, it’s reflecting on the experiences that we had

I love watching TED talks and very often I get good ideas for reflection about our world or simply learn something new. So, while I was finishing of my crocket necklace project, I decided to listen to something from TED and I came across Jane Fonda talk of life’s third act. She was talking about getting aged and taking different approach towards that. And I totally agree which her saying that being old is actually just starting new phase of life rather than waiting for death. She quoted Picasso “It takes a long time to become young”. It is so true, that to be young in spirit you need to learn to appreciate life, to be able to reflect yourself objectively and live life “here and know”. Too often we live towards the expected happiness that will come one day (maybe) rather than trying to be happy now. Who said that in a year you will be happier than now and that now it is not right time to be happy. This brings me to the book that I am reading now “Happiness Project” of Gretchen Rubin. Too often she was challenged by other people questions why to start happiness project if you are not unhappy. Are you supposed to try to be more happy only if you are unhappy? Is there some allowance of happiness per person?  So, I try to live my life every day doing something that would make me happy….it is not easy as great part of me feeling happy depends on progress. For me happiness is not an attained state of mind, not some stable position that could be secured, it is hard every day work towards being happy that makes my happy.